The trouble with being a perfectionist is that can make you very insular and inward looking. Perfectionists are usually concerned with how well they are performing in their lives and how they look to others. Sometimes we get so obsessed with ourselves and how to be perfect that we forget the basic priorities in our lives.
Over the last few months I’ve forgotten to make time for my friends. It’s a basic happiness habit that I am well aware of. People who spend time with friends and family, nurturing and enjoying their most important relationships are happy. However, I seem to have withdrawn myself from my friends recently…not intentionally as such… but in an attempt to focus on my family, I’ve neglected my connections to my most important friends.
Last week however I got back on track.
On Monday I spent the day with a good friend taking the kids out for inset day. It was raining but we still had a picnic in the park, complete with fresh air and mud, wet bottoms and flasks of tea.
On Tuesday my husband worked from home and we popped out for a quick lunch together to plan the year ahead.
On Wednesday I spoke to an inspiring group of business women who I have become friends with over the last year, and who, when I announced I would be writing a book this year, gave me the most amazing support and advice.
On Thursday I spoke to my best friend in Australia for the first time in about 3 months. We are planning a trip to see them next month.
On Friday I went out to the local pub with a group of girlfriends that I love, but don’t see enough (my fault!), where the laughter, banter and support nourished my soul.
And finally on Saturday, I spoke to some other friends who have just moved to Perth, and caught up with all their news. We are planning to see them next month too.
For the rest of the weekend I had a spring in my step, joy in my heart, and a seemingly never-ending supply of patience. In other words, I was happy.
It was an important lesson that has reminded me to make time to nurture my friendships this year.