As a happiness coach, I’m passionate about the many benefits of being happy.
More and more research is showing that being happy leads to people being more creative, more resilient and more successful. Happy people perform better, have better social lives, longer marriages and are healthier too.
So why do so many people – especially mums – think that their personal happiness is not important?
I think this is because firstly our society doesn’t put a high value on happiness – prefering to measure success in terms of career, money, celebrity and power. Secondly, mums are used to sacrificing a lot for their children – sleep, time, social lives, careers, flexibility….the list goes on – so sacrificing their own happiness becomes accepted as just what mums do. We tend to think of actively seeking happiness as being an indulgence.
But things are slowly changing. A new area of psychology- Positive Psychology – is now looking at what makes people happy rather than how to stop people feeling ill & depressed. What researchers have found over the last 20 years has been amazing. Not only is happiness evolutionarily necessary (it helped our ancesters invent new tools, be creative and develop more physical and mental resilience) but the key things that contribute to happiness are the simple, everyday things that are accessible to all of us. You’ll be glad to know that money, celebrity and power are nowhere on the list.
Being a happy mum helps us to nurture happier children who have a better start in life, and develop a mindset and set of skills that help them throughout their lives. So being a happy mum is not an indulgence, it is a necessity if you want your children to have a happy and successful life. That’s all a mum really wants for her children isn’t it?